My nieces are in town this week. Yesterday the kids had a wedding. The youngest of the cousins married an enormous stuffed turtle.
Her dress was a white blanket clipped together in back, a piece of ribbon over one shoulder and another around her waist to hold the gown in place, while a pillowcase adorned her head as a veil. The ceremony was held on the dock at Memom’s lake, complete with mini-sandcastles to line the aisle for the bride’s entry.
It was a fun wedding. Full of imagination, giggles and hope. The cost was free and my memory of this day will last a lifetime.
You see, not only was the ceremony refreshingly low-key and original, but so were the vows. There was no mention of “speak now or forever hold your peace” or the pressure of “until death do you part.”
No, the vows were realistic and simple:
Promise to treat each other with love and respect.
And if you enter Divorcemanship…
Be good to each other.
I was in awe of the simple brilliance of my favorite little people.
Divorcemanship – To end a marriage with fairness, respect and polite behavior towards one another.
These were the best wedding vows I’d ever heard. The recognition that good conduct is of the utmost importance, no matter what the future might bring.
We all can learn so much from the innocence and purity of our littlest loves when we stop long enough to listen.